My Favorite Coaching Question
Have you ever had a situation where you and a coworker are discussing the job and common problems that come up? As the discussion progresses both laments how the work or others are not as great and rosy as they should be. Then you both move on and nothing improves. Next time consider asking this question, "What is preventing you from changing that?"
What is the point of asking this question?
Advice is a waste of time as is complaining about how reality is not how we prefer. What we can do when we notice others are pointing out a problem in the environment is to ask; what are they doing to improve the situation? This is a hard skill to master since it feels good to proffer advice about the situation. Coaching is about encouraging others to reflect on their actions which are what they control versus commenting on the actions of others which we have no control over anyhow.